Can you meet your eye when looking in the mirror?

  • Imagine being able to admire and respect who you see.

Do you avoid looking at yourself in the mirror?  Do you purposefully look away when catching your reflection in a shopfront?

I want to commend you for reading this blog because that fact that you are here means that you are open to discovering a different part of yourself.  You are ready to uncover the true you rather than the CONDITIONED you.

Who you are is like an onion. In the middle of the onion is who you truly are, the truth of who you are.  Imagine for a moment how a young child behaves and thinks. They run around and absolutely love life. They aren’t worried about what they are wearing or what people think of them. They are just living in the moment, loving life.

As the child goes about their everyday life their parents start saying things like, “Don’t do that!” or “Be careful!” In addition to this the child starts observing what everyone around them is doing.  What happens in that moment is that they feel a feeling deep down that makes them feel that they have done something wrong, that WHO THEY ARE IS WRONG! 

“We grow up thinking that who we are IS WRONG and NOT GOOD ENOUGH”

Remember that a young child can’t process that mom is just stressed, that dad has just had a bad day at work which is why he needs time to relax or that the rest of society is just trying to fit in so that they too don’t feel out of place.  A child starts to compare themselves to the outside world and all they see is that they are different and that others are telling them that what they are doing is wrong. An example is this: dad walks in through the door and you rush up to him, delighted because of the beautiful picture you have drawn, eager to show him or you ask your father to read you a story.  All that the dad can think is that he just wants to relax after a long day spent in meetings and that he would prefer to look later. In that moment the child thinks that they have done something wrong. In addition, they ALSO think that I AM WRONG! They think that if they behaved in a different way; if they were someone else then their father may have given them more attention.  This all happens unconsciously.

The little child thinks, I don’t ever want to feel that way again. We all know that feeling.  The feeling where deep inside our stomachs or hearts you feel a sadness and pain. www-merakitherapy-com-2No one wants to feel that way. So you register a feeling in the body, you then create a thought ‘I don’t ever want to feel that way again’ so you develop a defence mechanism which becomes your first onion layer.  These defence mechanisms manifest as personality traits. Maybe you thought; if I was more creative, more supportive, and more independent than dad would have looked at my picture. If I was prettier, skinnier, bigger, stronger.

We are constantly looking at who we are, judging ourselves based on what we see outside of ourselves. This is something that happens without us even knowing it and we start to build layers. Now remember the child who was 2 years old, they create the initial thought but from that moment on they think the same thought over and over again. Your thought registers as electric impulses within the brain along the neurons and a neural pathway starts to develop.  From then on, the more you think this thought, the thicker the trace becomes within the neural pathways.  Eventually this develops into a an automatic, body reaction where you body ends up reacting before you are even aware or even know what is going on. Who you are today is a biological reactions to belief systems that you developed from earlier on.

How can you heal/change these belief systems? 

How can be ‘uncondition’ our existing thoughts?  How can we do and be from our soul, from the truth of who we are an not that which society and our parents have taught us?   I believe that this is how:


  1.   Awareness:  What is the thought and where did it come from?
  2.  Acceptance:  Remember that your reactions are biological memories and are all part of the human experience.  Why are you feeling bad about some thing that you don’t have control over? This is the HUMAN YOU!
  3.  Release:  Now that you are in awareness of the thoughts that aren’t in alignment with your truth you can CHOOSE to release a thought (when you are consciously aware) and think a new thought.
  4.  Reprogramming:   This the most important stage.  I am currently 36.  Let’s imagine that I developed a belief system when I was 2. (There are many people who believe that you develop belief systems up until the age of 7). That means for 34 years I have been thinking the same thought over and over and over again, which means that the trace within my neural pathways is very thick.  Meaning, I’m not going to change overnight.  Which is why self love and acceptance of the human journal is paramount.

The heart of who I am, within my own life, is to live and be the NEW ME in the present moment of each day so that I can start to create the new reprogrammed me rather than reliving the old conditioned me.  I am also aware that it takes time and it takes courage.  Why don’t you walk with me on this journey as we awaken to and live our truth?

9 steps to Honour your Inner Goddess

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor (1)Do you feel devalued? Are you tired of feeling not good enough? Are you scared to express how you truly feel? Do you know how to honour what you need? Do you know what it means to be true to who you are? Do you feel that others don’t see your true self?

Each person has a quality of being within them that is unique. What would the experience of your world be like if you stopped criticising yourselves for not conforming to the standards of society? Imagine if during your journey towards embracing (honouring your inner goddess) you not only uncovered your feminine power but you began to experience, live and relish the variety of aspects of the women within you.  I have always been very judgemental of the feminine expression of myself.  Part of the human journey is uncovering all the aspects of ourselves where we put pressure on ourselves to be better.

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor (3)The lesson here to is bring into our awareness that the more we criticise ourselves, the less all the different parts of who we are want to come up and as a consequence there is an emotional build up within that manifests as a feeling of constant pressure that we aren’t good enough.

“Are you giving yourself the safe space to heal old hurts and pains?”

When we create a picture of the perfect women, a picture of what perfection looks like and what we perceive ourselves to be and this isn’t the way we want it to be, we feel anxiety.  This anxiety is a message from our soul. It is a silent whisper that asks us to accept our inner beauty and change the way we see ourselves. When we do this, we naturally create balance within.  We don’t need to put pressure on ourselves.  When we let go of this pressure and listen to the gentle flow of the soul we begin to naturally align our self with our truth and begin to experience a peace from within.

Look at people and situations as opportunities for you to seek within the ability to find the live expression of your feminine identify.  How do the experiences in your life make you feel ‘not good enough’? To experience and live our true feminine identify we need to uncover the different parts of the divine goddess within each of us.  To live in balance we need to honour all the aspects of our feminine expression.

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighborTo honour your inner goddess means to embrace each of these 9 elements of the feminine, step by step:

1. The mother of the child:  When you are hurt how do you talk to yourself? Do you criticise yourself, tell yourself to act in a way that is in accordance with how society expects you to act or do you honour that which you need? How do you speak to your inner child, with love and gentle encouragement or with self-criticism?

2. The daughter of a mother:  Do you respect that you are doing the best that you know how to? Do you respect and honour the words of your own guidance or do you question and disrespect who you are?

3. The partner that is complete:  Do you embrace the Ying and the Yang within yourself.  Do you allow other people to have control of your emotions, do you give your power over to others or do you protect yourself from the energies of others and always look within to make yourself feel complete?

4. The healer: 

“Each person has a quality of being within them that is unique.”

Are you giving yourself the safe space to heal old hurts and pains? Are you honouring your needs as they unfold? Are you putting a band aide on the problem or are you allowing yourself the space to heal on a deeper level where true healing takes place?

5. The teacher:  Are you telling yourself what to do or are you living by example?  Are you scolding yourself for not doing ‘well enough’ or are you respecting the learning process of your soul lessons?

6. The dancer:  What steps are you taking in your life? Are you listening to the music within your heart and following the rhythm of your heart beat or are you listening to the drum of society?

7. The poet and writer:  How are you creatively expressing yourself? What sets your heart on fire? What makes your heart sing?

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor (2)8. The listener:  Are you listening to yourself and others from the critical mind, the conditioned beliefs of society or are you listening from your core, your soul that knows that the only truth there is love and that all else is a perception that has been created by your beliefs.

9. The women of peace:  Do you live in the awareness that you are not what others say?  There is no insecurity.  We don’t find our security in the views of others but in the belief that we have in ourselves, it is in this space that you experience inner peace.

Have fun uncovering, discovering and living the new aspects of who you are. Relish the feeling that you don’t need the validation of others to live the magic of the source of your being. Discover how to embrace all the aspects of who you are today by connecting with Meraki Therapy personally.


Personal Reading – Melissa Freemantle, Alstar Quest