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9 steps to Honour your Inner Goddess

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor (1)Do you feel devalued? Are you tired of feeling not good enough? Are you scared to express how you truly feel? Do you know how to honour what you need? Do you know what it means to be true to who you are? Do you feel that others don’t see your true self?

Each person has a quality of being within them that is unique. What would the experience of your world be like if you stopped criticising yourselves for not conforming to the standards of society? Imagine if during your journey towards embracing (honouring your inner goddess) you not only uncovered your feminine power but you began to experience, live and relish the variety of aspects of the women within you.  I have always been very judgemental of the feminine expression of myself.  Part of the human journey is uncovering all the aspects of ourselves where we put pressure on ourselves to be better.

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor (3)The lesson here to is bring into our awareness that the more we criticise ourselves, the less all the different parts of who we are want to come up and as a consequence there is an emotional build up within that manifests as a feeling of constant pressure that we aren’t good enough.

“Are you giving yourself the safe space to heal old hurts and pains?”

When we create a picture of the perfect women, a picture of what perfection looks like and what we perceive ourselves to be and this isn’t the way we want it to be, we feel anxiety.  This anxiety is a message from our soul. It is a silent whisper that asks us to accept our inner beauty and change the way we see ourselves. When we do this, we naturally create balance within.  We don’t need to put pressure on ourselves.  When we let go of this pressure and listen to the gentle flow of the soul we begin to naturally align our self with our truth and begin to experience a peace from within.

Look at people and situations as opportunities for you to seek within the ability to find the live expression of your feminine identify.  How do the experiences in your life make you feel ‘not good enough’? To experience and live our true feminine identify we need to uncover the different parts of the divine goddess within each of us.  To live in balance we need to honour all the aspects of our feminine expression.

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighborTo honour your inner goddess means to embrace each of these 9 elements of the feminine, step by step:

1. The mother of the child:  When you are hurt how do you talk to yourself? Do you criticise yourself, tell yourself to act in a way that is in accordance with how society expects you to act or do you honour that which you need? How do you speak to your inner child, with love and gentle encouragement or with self-criticism?

2. The daughter of a mother:  Do you respect that you are doing the best that you know how to? Do you respect and honour the words of your own guidance or do you question and disrespect who you are?

3. The partner that is complete:  Do you embrace the Ying and the Yang within yourself.  Do you allow other people to have control of your emotions, do you give your power over to others or do you protect yourself from the energies of others and always look within to make yourself feel complete?

4. The healer: 

“Each person has a quality of being within them that is unique.”

Are you giving yourself the safe space to heal old hurts and pains? Are you honouring your needs as they unfold? Are you putting a band aide on the problem or are you allowing yourself the space to heal on a deeper level where true healing takes place?

5. The teacher:  Are you telling yourself what to do or are you living by example?  Are you scolding yourself for not doing ‘well enough’ or are you respecting the learning process of your soul lessons?

6. The dancer:  What steps are you taking in your life? Are you listening to the music within your heart and following the rhythm of your heart beat or are you listening to the drum of society?

7. The poet and writer:  How are you creatively expressing yourself? What sets your heart on fire? What makes your heart sing?

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor (2)8. The listener:  Are you listening to yourself and others from the critical mind, the conditioned beliefs of society or are you listening from your core, your soul that knows that the only truth there is love and that all else is a perception that has been created by your beliefs.

9. The women of peace:  Do you live in the awareness that you are not what others say?  There is no insecurity.  We don’t find our security in the views of others but in the belief that we have in ourselves, it is in this space that you experience inner peace.

Have fun uncovering, discovering and living the new aspects of who you are. Relish the feeling that you don’t need the validation of others to live the magic of the source of your being. Discover how to embrace all the aspects of who you are today by connecting with Meraki Therapy personally.

Bibliography:

Personal Reading – Melissa Freemantle, Alstar Quest

 

Why fake it when you are Authentically ‘it’?

pie-chart - fake it till you become itThis month’s poll showed an exact divide of 50/50 in the opinions of people as to whether this phenomenon is actually possible. I agree with both sides, yes and no. If you are in awareness of who you Authentically are, then there is no need to fake it because that is who you are at your core.

Before you even begin to answer the question “Can you fake it till you become it?” you need to know what you are trying to fake. This means a journey within to the unconscious mind to find out what aspects of yourself you feel aren’t good enough so would have to fake them in the first place.

No, don’t be ridiculous, of course you can’t fake it till you make it

If you lack authenticity, everything is a lie and you don’t have the right things for the right people in your life.” Anonymous participant of this month’s poll

The law of attraction will say that whatever you pay attention to you attract. That which you think you draw into your reality. What most people forget is that, yes you do attract that which you think, but you also attract the unconscious intention and vibration of your thoughts. If you think one thing, but feel the opposite, you will attract that which you are feeling in the deeper levels of your soul. No matter how much faking you do you will not become it until you truly believe and feel that which you want.

Yes, any one can!

fake it till you become itAmy Cuddy did a fantastic TED talk where she talks about how if you practice something for long enough you will eventually become it. If you ‘pretend’ enough through the use of body language those around you will start to interact with you differently and believe you ‘are that which you want to be’ even if you yourself don’t.

I believe this can be a powerful way of becoming that which you want. Even if you don’t believe your initial thought in the beginning you are still thinking this thought.

If we take a step back to the moment when you first thought a limiting belief about yourself, I believe that at this stage a small trace was formed within your neural network around this thought (Trace Decay Theory, Hebb, 1949). Each time you engaged in that thinking from that moment on, the trace become thicker and stronger. This is why much later on in your life you simply just react to situations and people from these limiting beliefs because they have become programmed on a neural level. If you start to ‘fake’ it, even before you think it, you are consciously choosing to think a new thought. You are now creating a new neural pathway and no longer thinking the thoughts that once limited you. The limiting belief system neurons are weakened and the new neurons start to become those that you react from.

“Who we are is not our belief systems. Who we are is that original being who was born free of any limiting thoughts.”

Both Sidra Jafri and Louise Hay talk about affirmations on a regular bases. Sidra believes that you can reprogramme a new thought by simply writing down the affirmation you are wanting to draw into your reality 21 times each day for 21 days. Louise Hay encourages us to look into the Mirror – look into our eyes each morning – and not only say the words of the affirmation but feel them on a deeper level.

What sets your heart on fire?Who we are is not our belief systems. Our belief systems are only conditioned thoughts that we have taken on through imitation and observation of the society we were brought up in. These thoughts are not the truth of who we are. Who we are is that original being who was born free of any limiting thoughts. We are that original being who was birthed into this world with the awareness that they are good enough. They are, at the core of who they are, pure love.

My encouragement to you is this:  What would you like to become? Do some awareness exercises (contact me if you need support on this) to uncover the belief systems that you hold that make you feel not good enough, observe them as they come up, then change these belief systems to those that are in alignment with your Authentic Self.