Helpful tip from Eat, Pray, Love

eat-pray-love-movie“True wisdom gives the only possible answer at any given moment, and that night going back to bed was the only possible answer. Go back to bed, said this omniscient interior voice, because you don’t need to find the final answer right now, at three o’clock in the morning on a Thursday in November.  Go back to bed, because I love you. Go back to bed, because the only thing you need to know tight now is get sine rest and take good care of yourself until you do know the answer.”

If you are like me, when you ask god/the universe a question or for an answer that you really need to hear right this moment and if the answer isn’t what you expect or not an answer at all you beat yourself up for not ‘hearing god’s voice or your inner guidance’.  Elizabeth Gilbert puts it so nicely when she writes that some times the only thing we need is to go back to bed.  Some times the only thing we need to do is just sit and be until we are sure what the answer is.

The universe has lots to do once you have asked your question. It has to whisper in peoples’ ears to make things happen and if they aren’t listening you may have to be patient a little longer.

For me the realisation wasn’t that the universe has to put a puzzle together to make my perfect picture. I trust the universe.  The realisation for me was that some times it was ok to just do nothing and wait for the inner voice to be louder.

Trust that when the time is right, you will hear what your inner god/dess is telling you what to do.

Find some more great quotes from Eat, Pray, Love Quotes by Elizabeth Gilbert

Why is it important to spend time realigning yourself every day?

You know those moments when you feel completely overwhelmed? When you feel like you are being pulled in numerous directions or that you just don’t seem to be yourself as your emotions feel like they want to burst out of you?

In essence, Abraham Hicks would call this type of feeling, emotion and/or situation, swimming upstream.   When things just aren’t going right in your life, subtly or blatantly. One of the reasons we are here is to learn how to swim downstream. Meaning to realign ourselves with who we really are. When this alignment takes place we feel like we are swimming upstream, we feel like we are walking to the beat of our hearts and our true calling.

How do we learn how to swim downstream? There are many ways, one of which is meditation in which ever form resonates with you. I like to sit and be still with my journal, go for a run, a ride in the countryside or even just sit and do one of Louise Hay’s exercises in just checking in on where my body is physically at, how it is doing. On a very basic form, simply just breathing in your higher self and breathing out that which isn’t in alignment with your true worth.   This is a great quick breathing exercise when you are out and about in town.

On a deeper level what is going on when we spend time realigning ourselves every day? There are many parts/energies to who we are as human beings in the spiritual worlds. The most important energy to me at the moment is my soul energy. This is the energy that I want to spend time with every day so that it can become stronger and I can learn to start living through and from this energy within myself. As I start to learn more about and focus on this energy I believe it starts to move more freely through, up, down and out of me thus allowing me to grow from these flows. Another energy is the heart chakra. It is the consciousness of your heart that invites all experiences into your life that bless and teach you. It is within these experiences that our reality exists.

Thus by spending time with ourselves every day we allow a new ‘identity’/a new birth to be activated that is not from the ego (the conscious mind influenced by society). It is this mind that is activated when we are feeling overwhelmed and caught up in emotions and every day challenges. One of the ways to quieten this voice and awaken your soul’s voice is to spend time with yourself every day feeling the soul’s energy. Our heart chakra carries the memories from our past experiences and it knows what we need to learn and experience is this life which is why it calls certain experiences to us (this is different to the principles of the law of attraction). When these experience are present within our reality, we have the opportunity to listen to either our soul’s voice or that of our ego.

This is a remarkable blessing to be able to know that this emergence of our true selves is ahead of us. This is what gives us the confidence to know that all is well, that even if we don’t understand what is going on in the deeper levels of ourselves, our daily meditations will give us the opportunity to let this be. We give ourselves the opportunity to flow in the downstream in the rivers of our unique, beautiful souls. We give ourselves the opportunity to practice listening to our soul’s voice and objectively hear our ego but not act on it but simply just to let it go with gratitude.

Why does he never understand me?

A question we have asked on more than one occasion about more than one person is, ‘Why do we see things so differently?’  There are many explanations for this.

I found the explanation by Prager University in their video ‘Understanding Men and Women; Why They See Things Differently’ to be really interesting.  As a psychotherapist I believe that there is always more to each situation then meets the eye.  We see life through our own lenses and nothing the other person can say changes how we react to a situation.  This reaction is often because of years of belief system creation.

So according to Alison Armstrong, by understanding the differences between men and women we can relate to them differently which will bring out the best in them.  In other words, once we have reacted we can try and see the situation through the eyes of our partner.  By slowly starting to see situations through other’s eyes we may begin to change some unconscious patterns of though.

Helpful Tip:  Why don’t you and your partner watch this video clip together.  That way you are not directly discussing the issue but the discussion is slightly more objective as the energy of the concentration is based around what the other person ‘thinks about the video’ rather than what ‘you said or didn’t say’.

Let me know how your discussion goes?